Sunday, May 22, 2016

Struggle: Love the Downs..Hold on for the Ups



I’ve got the steering wheel today; it’s going to be a little bumpy. I am Miguel, husband to Fit and Fun Mama, Libby. 



Weight loss and fitness..hmmm..The title pretty much sums up this area in my life, struggles and victories, ups and downs, peaks and valleys; all those clichés which really mean when I focus on weight loss it happens. When I don’t it shows; in this blog the ladies talk about the realities of what happens when you don’t have the food to exercise ratio in proper balance and how they go through this journey of change. I’d like to move to giving grace and enjoying the ride. Why enjoy the ride; one simple word: Character.

Webster definition of character is the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual; your disposition, temperament and make-up.” So why this word and why now? I believe a lot of self reflection is needed with any big change in your life; for most there is an area or 2 that require self-reflection and major change to achieve success. For some weight-loss, exercising, physical fitness are God-given talents (we all have gifts in areas that come easy); they are great at it but their struggles are in other areas: career, marriage, parenting, money, etc.  No one has perfected all of these for good reason: we're not perfect. I’ve been renewing my walk with Jesus over the past few months; I’ve studied, prayed and questioned what is God’s purpose for struggles. The short answer is: Character.

“Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.  And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.” – Romans 5:3-5


How do we become inspirations to other people if we don’t experience these struggles ourselves; would Driven even be a blog of all of the bloggers are 2% body fat and spend 3-5 hours a day working-out. One of the things that makes Driven a great read for me is “the struggle is real”; these ladies put it out there; the success, the failure, the joy and the pains. Struggles build character; not just your character but also the character of the support system around; the people in the trenches with you. My weight loss struggle melds me to some of the most important people in my life: my brother-in-law and my wife. Bro-in-law (broham) is the fitness dude; he’s always there to start me up again anytime I get serious on this training thing; no judgments and no negativity just glad to see you in the gym again. Because of my struggle and his support, that’s my right hand man. The great thing about life is it works the other way around to; our struggles bring us together. It’s a lot of words to say this: “Without our struggles, if everything was perfect why would we need each other; what then builds character?” Struggles make you vulnerable, Vulnerability makes you real to people. Being real is the only way you defeat and succeed. Perseverance and hope come from having struggles; you find your friends, family and support system there. To be honest any relationship without true vulnerability is superficial.

Would I like to 30lbs lighter; sure. Would I like to run a 5K in 22 minutes; yep. Will I buckle down and get started; probably..:). In the meantime, I’m going to enjoy the ride with my broham, wife, family and friends. The struggle is real because it needs to be; it’s His plan.

Readers of Driven; embrace your struggles and love the challenge to work past them. Stop beating yourself up; patience and love are fruits of the spirit. It starts in you first. It’s God’s plan to put the right people, resources and thoughts in your path to achieve success and bring others along with you. Good luck on achieving your goals ladies and gentlemen and love your character-building journey!!

Honbear Out!!





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